Never lie, steal, cheat, or drink. But if you must lie, lie in the arms of the one you love. If you must steal, steal away from bad company. If you must cheat, cheat death. And if you must drink, drink in the moments that take your breath away.
Not if you pay attention. I mean, you're sending all the right signals - no earrings, heels under two inches, your hair is pulled back, you're wearing reading glasses with no book, drinking a Grey Goose martini, which means you had a hell of a week and a beer just wouldn't do it. And if that wasn't clear enough, there's always the "fuck off" sign that you have stamped on your forehead.
Because thats what people do... they leap and hope to God they can fly! Because otherwise, we just drop like a rock... wondering the whole way down..."why in the hell did I jump?" But here I am Sarah, falling. And there's only one person that makes me feel like I can fly... That's you.
So I know, I realize that Hitch is a really corny, cheesy chick flick movie. It has no real place in the real world...
and maybe I don't live in the real world. I found myself. I know that sounds stupid but I found myself. pretty quickly actually after I started looking. The thing is what I found was something I didn't want to admit. That it wasn't him. Me losing myself had nothing to do with him. It was a really freaking nice excuse though. It was.
I found myself in morning workouts, squeezing them in. Getting all 1000 calories burned in 65 minutes between class and work and grabbing a fruit smoothie out the door. I found myself in eating healthy and laughing and remembering that I am a beautiful girl even on the outside. and making time for my friends. I found myself in not talking so much and listening more and remembering to pray before I lay my head down at night. I found myself by not trying to be anyone but me. I found that being friends with my best friend Emily isn't about liking her every day or she liking every little thing I do. It's about loving her no matter what and never wanting to not be there for her. I found myself in my physiology professor saying, "Clarisse this is a class...and work is work...but life...Clarisse don't plan so much that you miss out on life"
In the past 3 years I have quite seriously convinced three different men to marry me. the last one happened in about a week and a half. nondesperate attractive, lives together men. Every single one of these men I quickly detached from, deleted them from my phone and never spoke to again at all costs no matter how lonely I felt.
what if love is really what it's cracked up to be? and I know that's some corny quote by some guy. But seriously, what if it is? What if love isn't always easy and what if the answers aren't always so clear? What if love really is just love. It's just that feeling you get and sometimes you have to wait and sometimes it's immediate and sometimes it's the movies and sometimes it's not?
My life is fine. my life is actually great. I just got into the grad school of my dreams and I am so excited. My current coworkers and my kids are some of the most amazing people I've ever met. I can tell you that God put my 3 other teachers in my life for a purpose for many purposes. So many purposes...I am the smallest I have ever been in my life and it's because I'm healthy. because I run out my troubles and my frustrations. I'm not perfect but hey "people like me" lol as my mom would say.
So you know I'm in a weird kind of love. I'm not stopping my life, my life is good and wonderful and great. But I am in love. Maybe I don't scream it from the rooftops maybe now it doesn't make me feel helpless or lost. Maybe I'm done crying and arguing and trying to change squares into circles. Maybe I'm accepting that it is what it is.
It makes me feel whole. It makes me feel like the world is right and good. It makes me feel like I can handle this crazy thing called life. It makes me a better me.
But I know who me is without that love. It's the same person. The same wonderful, amazing woman.
So I can promise to occasionally go out on dates. To go get coffee (I don't drink coffee) and introduce myself to strangers. To for an hour or maybe even a day to let a guy know a little more about me. To stay on match.com and try to be kind when I check it about once a month because you know at a time I was convinced it was a good place for me. I can be nice and pleasant and kind because that is the woman that I am. and to be honest I love that look that men give me when they first see me dressed to the nine's. That long stare and blink out of realization that they've been staring.
But I found me. You know it didn't take too long. But when I listen to me, to the real me. I'm not scared. and I'm not lonely because I'm not alone. I'm still in love and no you don't have to hear about it. You don't have to understand it and I'd rather you not really ask me questions about it. I'm still your girl, I'm still your sister and daughter and your best friend. If I want to tell you I will. And I understand why you might not understand and why you might think I'm headed down a bad path, that I've been headed down it awhile now and it's time to woman up and move on. I understand that.
To that I say, my feet have never been firmer under me. My head has never been on straighter. My future school is set, my career is set, my finances are fine, my friends and my family are amazing. Maybe I'm a little busy and I could use some help trying to see my niece and goddaughter a little more but besides that I am fine. I'm wonderful. I'm me.
but because I am me. I love. I love in ways that can't be explained. If I were to have a gift, a special gift, that would be the gift that God gave me. And I'm not going to waste that gift. And I'm not going to be untrue to myself. I'm happy. I'm in a weird kind of love. Right now I don't really understand. But I know the decisions I make and the things I do are the right things for me right now. I am confident that this is the way I am supposed to go for better or for worse. My intentions are rooted in love and in the right. To go against that, would be wrong. It would be wrong for me.
So this is my path. I feel confident in my path and although I don't know about tomorrow, I know that I can take it one second, one minute, one hour, one day at all time. Maybe I can't look much farther than that without feeling out of control. But that, that I can handle. I am strong and this is right. And if you don't understand it or you don't approve of it, at the very least please put your trust in me. Believe that this is something I'm supposed to do for some reason yet unknown.
It's right. it's good. and it's true. and one day I'll understand. Right now it's enough to know that I believe in me and the good that is me.